The search for the female G-spot — that supposedly erotic pleasure button somewhere in the vagina — has become like the search for the Lost City of Atlantis. Some insist it’s real and that they’ve found it; others insist it’s a myth; and still others say it was never lost, it’s just part of an island we’ve known about all along, an extension of the clitoris.

The infamous G-spot was named after German gynaecologist Ernst Grafenberg, who in 1950 wrote, “an erotic zone always could be demonstrated on the anterior wall of the vaginal along the course of the urethra.” Sex researchers Dr. John Perry and Dr. Beverly Whipple dubbed this area the G-spot in 1981 when they replicated Grafenberg’s findings in their own research.

Kilchevsky and colleagues conducted a new study in which they reviewed 29 studies, that included surveys, vaginal tissue biopsies, nerve studies, ultrasounds – you name it – and did not find any anatomical structure on the vagina’s anterior wall where the G-spot supposedly resides – the wall that would face a person’s belly. The researchers couldn’t find more nerves in this area or any indication of a physical structure they deemed conclusive. What did the researchers find? The surveys the showed that a majority of women believed in the existence of a G-spot, including those who said they’ve never located it. The dark side is that many women worry they’re doing something wrong, or that they are defective in some way, and missing out on sexual pleasure.

As a matter of fact, the G-spot is not just a ‘spot’, it’s actually an area! It’s an area where the clitoris meets the other internal organs like the urethra. It’s a confluence of a number of different genitally sensitive organs. Furthermore, women who say they experience vaginal orgasms may be experiencing clitoral stimulation and not the G-spot. The truth is that the clitoris is the reason behind most orgasms, not the G-spot!

All women experience different sensitivities than others when it comes to sex and achieving orgasm, so no individuals are exactly the same. Hence, it’s not the end of the world if you can’t orgasm solely from vaginal penetration, all you have to do is figure out what makes you feel good and just do it!